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PharmGirl
Member since Jul-22-10
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Aug-31-10, 11:51 PM (CST) |
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"Unrequited love"
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1) Does anyone want to share their experience(s) of unrequited love or an unrequited crush? 2) Do you regret the experience or do you feel it has helped you grow emotionally? 3) What is your opinion on the the subject of unrequited love? Not that I want to bring anyone down. Just curious! I have never personally been in love with anyone but have harbored countless unrequited crushes, which have led to countless nights of crying. In hindsight, my behavior seems silly but understandable. I would never take back any of those experiences because I feel I have grown as a result of them and have become so much better at "reading" and understanding the opposite sex. I love the concept of unrequited love for some reason. I feel like people who experience it can really appreciate true love when it finally comes to be. |
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hopeful soul
Member since Nov-23-05
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Sep-01-10, 11:57 AM (CST) |
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4. "RE: Unrequited love"
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I have two major ones, though it wasn’t so much unrequited love as “it just never happened”. The first was Neil White, back in the 5th grade. Sigh, blonde mullet hair, blue eyes, and freckles. Lots of freckles. He was my first major crush. We started off as friends, but inevitably the thought of catching cooties kept us apart. He used to pull my hair, hide my lunchbox, tried to teach me how to do the running man to Vanilla Ice’s “Ice, Ice, Baby”. But somewhere between the 6th and 7th grade, our feelings changed. We had this whole love/hate thing going on. Then one fall day, he walks into class and he announces that he and his family are moving back to the US (we were in the Middle East), out of complete and utter stupidity, I claimed that I was so happy that I would never see his ugly face again and that I was GLAD he was leaving so that we didn’t have to pretend to be his friend anymore. I cried for a week straight after that. By the end of the fall term, I was flying out to Canada, cause my family was getting ready to immigrate, and he was leaving the day after to fly back to Orlando. He lived on our school campus where all the teachers lived, he invited me over and we had this really sweet farewell moment. He wanted me to have something of his, so he tried to give me his pet budgies, but my mother wouldn’t let me take them. He was so upset that I wouldn’t take then that he threatened to feed his beloved birds to his dog. I promptly had my best friend adopt them  That was the last I ever saw of him. I so wish we had internet back then, I didn’t even have an address or telephone #. Even after all these years, I’d do anything to meet him again. Sigh.My second crush was on my then BF’s Best Friend, Andrew. My feelings for him were a lot more intense, a lot more real. Again, we had this whole love/hate thing going. In my imagination, I suppose he hated me for dating his best-friend, because up until then we were friends. But after, he just got really mean. He would say some horrible things to me and his best-friend all the time. But then there were these moments when he’d just watch out for me. He saved me from a lot of bad situations in high school…a part of me wishes I could have talked to him about it all, to find out how he really felt about me. My only real comfort is knowing that the last thing I ever said to him was how I really felt about him. I’m so glad that whatever forces were out there, made me pick up that phone and call him and tell him how big a crush I had on him and how I wished things could be different. His response to all of that, by the way, was “meh”. I asked him how he felt about what I had shared with him, and he said “meh!” But then he did offer to meet for coffee to talk about it some more and then he laughed at me when I told him that meeting for coffee couldn’t possibly happen because I was in Ottawa and he lived in Mississauga. But, I assume that laugh was more of incredulity that I would lay my heart on the line but only to tell him that we couldn’t physically be together except for a few days every year. By the time I moved back home, he was already in a rock solid relationship with another girl from high school. A year later, both he and his girlfriend died in a motorcycle accident.
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dmummey
Member since Jul-3-08
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Sep-01-10, 12:56 PM (CST) |
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7. "RE: Unrequited love"
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I met him 2 months after I turned 15, he was older, beautiful and very shy. He made me laugh and we became friends. He asked me out at the Homecoming Peep ralley, we dated for 3 months and I was head over heels for him. I told him I loved him and he broke up with me. I was devastated because of course at 15, I just knew we were going to get married and be together forever and ever. He told me I was too young, that I didn't even know what love means. We went back and forth for a year until he graduated from High School. Then it there was nothing.... I would be out and run into him, and my hands would shake and I would get so nervous. I remember just carrying a torch for him for years... just knowing he was the most wonderful boy God put on this Earth. in 1993 I went into the army and he went his way......
but even writing this now.... i remember how sad and how much i just longed for him.... feeling like he didn't care about me in the same way...thinking if he would just pick me.... Please just pick me.
I still think he is the most wonderful boy God put on this earth and I truly believe that is why our marriage is so wonderful. I never ever take him for granted.
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PharmGirl
Member since Jul-22-10
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Sep-01-10, 11:02 PM (CST) |
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13. "RE: Unrequited love"
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Love the responses so far! Just for the record, I did want to clarify that (as far as I know) I am not harboring any unrequited love or crushes on anybody. (I wish I still had the time to though!) As much as I appreciate all my experiences with it, I hope to God I've moved past that point in my life. The reason the topic came up was because of something I read yesterday. It made me think about unrequited love and if others felt the same way about it as I did. Lousy, bittersweet or just sweet...it's interesting to know everyone has a different take on it. But thank you for the advice anyway! |
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