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Cheryl
Member since Oct-9-08
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Aug-15-10, 01:26 PM (CST) |
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"Some things are just too weird for words"
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There are some things in life that happen that have you walking around like a zombie, scratching your head, asking yourself "what the hell just happened". I've never been thrown out of (or strongly encouraged to leave) a wake and forbidden to attend the funeral before!! My BIL's fiance of 11 years died this week from cancer. We considered her our SIL because they lived together for so long. Her 34yr. old son is claiming that my BIL overdosed her on morphine and murdered her! The son has been sending threatening messages to our entire extended family saying that none of us are safe!! Scarey stuff considering he is strung out on drugs most of the time. Altracations happened at the wake, police called, ugly scene................. This is NOT who we are!!! We are stunned to even be involved in this!!! Like one of my SILs said "We are the nice ones! How did this happen?" Not a good summer for us at all! Mostly, what we are all feeling is sadness that we were denied the opportunity to be at the service to say our goodbyes, as well as being there to support my BIL. Cheryl
St. Charles, Misssouri |
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Elena C 58
Member since Jul-20-10
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Aug-15-10, 07:42 PM (CST) |
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2. "RE: Some things are just too weird for words"
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Cheryl, In any circumstances, the death of someone loved and important results in strong (and sometimes misdirected) feelings. Unfortunately those feeling can include blame...MISPLACED blame. When the person who is slinging that blame around is impaired and can't be reasoned with, well it is just a horrible experience. My BIL was not close to my husband but decided in the last days of my sweet husbands life to 'help'. He was far more a hindrance. I was very lucky that my husband wrote down all his wishes for his last days so I was able to show BIL that was my sweetie's wishes. It cut some of the crap that I had to deal with. Hang in there, this crap in your life will ease. Consider getting together with other family members and have an informal memorial service. I'm so sorry for your loss. Elena |
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halibev
Member since Jun-27-07
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Aug-15-10, 09:23 PM (CST) |
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3. "RE: Some things are just too weird for words"
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Cheryl, First of all sorry for your loss. You are right though--some things are just way beyond words and leave you feeling like " what just happened and why is this happening"? I've been to A Lot of funerals for this year alone and thank goodness nothing like this happened. I've heard only one strange story so far and that is for someone that died suddenly in the hospital and now the family is claiming that the hospital was negligent--this is now after the person( a young man) was cremated. A little late to have an independent autopsy so no case. Having your own family memorial is a good idea. Hali Queens(1 of the 5 Borough's of New York City) |
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Patricia G
Member since Aug-9-05
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Aug-15-10, 10:01 PM (CST) |
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Cheryl, I'm sorry this happened. You will never be so happy to see autumn again in your life. Patricia G |
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dmummey
Member since Jul-3-08
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Aug-16-10, 12:35 PM (CST) |
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10. "RE: Some things are just too weird for words"
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I am so sorry to hear this, but i have to tell ya my Step-mother passed away in NOV from cancer and as strange as it may sound there were whispers about the same kind of thing. Family members not paying attn and overdosing and even accusing the Hospice nurses of keeping her drugged to keep her quiet. In the end People are grieving and looking to blame someone because I guess sometimes the cancer is just not enough. I also think that with Cancer in they just keep the patient so out of it that family members sometimes blame the medical staff.
Again so sorry this happened to you.
I think it is so sad that people seem to lose their minds at times like these. DAWN |
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