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motherof4
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"Education please!"
 
   What do you call a person you are living with, but not married to? My dictionary suggests co-habiter or commonlaw spouse, but I'm not sure if those terms are used. I've used the term "partner" when describing my mothers man, but maybe that suggests a homosexual relationship???? Can someone explain this to me, please?

Malin (Sweden)


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  Subject     Author     Message Date     ID  
  RE: Education please! Geanina_28 Aug-08-10 1
  RE: Education please! Ann Rose Aug-08-10 2
  RE: Education please! Jewls Aug-08-10 3
  RE: Education please! Mezzo Aug-08-10 4
  RE: Education please! Anisa Aug-08-10 5
     RE: Education please! SEP Aug-08-10 6
         RE: Education please! Elena C 58 Aug-08-10 10
  RE: Education please! luci_0775 Aug-08-10 7
  RE: Education please! msmicah Aug-08-10 8
  RE: Education please! motherof4 Aug-08-10 9
     RE: Education please! lilith55655 Aug-08-10 11
     RE: Education please! Jewls Aug-09-10 12
         RE: Education please! motherof4 Aug-09-10 13
  RE: Education please! shanaia_29 Aug-09-10 14
     RE: Education please! Rox Aug-09-10 15
  RE: Education please! donajo Aug-09-10 16

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Geanina_28
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1. "RE: Education please!"
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   the lawyer in me would say common law spouse or domestic partner, but hey I'm over here in Romania and my grasp of English language and terminology has its days...not sure if today is one of the best,let's wait for the Americans and Australians to enlighten x

Geanina


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Ann Rose
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2. "RE: Education please!"
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   I guess I would just introduce him/her without a definition of their relationship. "This is my mother Judy and this is John Doe". If someone asks if they're married, then I guess it's up to you if you want to say they're having a relationship. I don't know if your mother cares if people know they are living together. I always refrain from giving too much information. It's really no one's business.


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Jewls
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3. "RE: Education please!"
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   Over here if you are living with someone and are in a relationship with them but not married, the term is defacto. Defacto spouse, defacto husband/wife, but it isn't as nice as saying partner. I had always preferred the term partner for an adult heterosexual serious or long term relationship, peronally thinking that bf / gf are terms more suited to people under 30, but nowadays the term partner seems to be more associated with same sex partnerships / relationships.


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Mezzo
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4. "RE: Education please!"
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IF they're in their 20's I'd probably just say boyfriend or girlfriend, but if they're older I might say Significant Other. I tend to use partner for same sex relationships also.

Do re mi fa sol long,
Lynne in Cleveland


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Anisa
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5. "RE: Education please!"
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I'd say partner or significant other.

Dawn

"Outside of a dog, a book is man's best friend.
Inside a dog, it's too dark to read."
--Groucho Marx


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SEP
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6. "RE: Education please!"
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   I agree.


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Elena C 58
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10. "RE: Education please!"
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   ditto

Elena
Sacramento, CA


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luci_0775
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7. "RE: Education please!"
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   I would say partner even for non-homosexual relationships.

Luci
Malta


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msmicah
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8. "RE: Education please!"
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Significant Other

Micah


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motherof4
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9. "RE: Education please!"
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   Thanks for your answers! I haven't heard the term "significant other" before, but I like it alot. I also like the Australian term defacto spouse.

Malin (Sweden)


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lilith55655
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11. "RE: Education please!"
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   I would use significant other. A not as polite but to-the-point term I like is live-in.

Lilith


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Jewls
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12. "RE: Education please!"
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   defacto is more the legal term, it isn't the term people would use in everyday conversation though.

If a designation is needed for purposes of introductions, we tend to use the term partner.


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motherof4
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13. "RE: Education please!"
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   Jewls, thanks for the clarification!

Malin


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shanaia_29
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14. "RE: Education please!"
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   In our country we call it a live-in partner. That is people living together under the same roof but are not married.

_step_


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Rox
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15. "RE: Education please!"
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I'd call them lucky. lol. Actually Joy Behar of The View calls her 28 year relationship with her man, "My spousal equivalent" which i rather like.


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donajo
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16. "RE: Education please!"
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   My friends who are in this situation refer to each other as "homey." She'll introduce him "This is Jerry, my homey."


Donna in Kirkwood, Missouri (St. Louis
area )

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